i'm Hans, ever learning feminist and aspiring sociologist
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"Unexpressed emotions will never die. They are buried alive and they will come forth later in uglier ways.”
— Sigmund Freud (via everythingitseems)


I hate that femininity is talked about as just an expression of style, only the visible parts are ever discussed & acknowledged. It is so much more, clothes and makeup only scratch the surface, femininity is socialized submissiveness, fragility, sacrificing, self doubt & self hatred, it is about being a sexual object for men, it is unpaid labour being your “natural” role in society, it is about always placing yourself second. It takes a long time & lots of mental work to completely reject femininity, because it is so ingrained in our heads, it’s how we are raised to view the world, interact with the world, it effects every aspect of our lives, and sometimes we don’t even realize it. I’ve know lots of men who call themselves feminine, and not one of them has really been feminine beyond the surface level, none of them really understand or bother to try, yet still feel entitled to speak against gender abolitionists & derail conversations to tell us how empowering femininity really is.